What is Mind's Blind Definition?

You might be wondering what I mean by "Mind's Blinds Definition." It is the soul of what my blog is and will reflect the topics that are discussed. I am no expert of communication, although I am studying this as my major, but within my studying I am learning what real, concrete, true and beautiful communication is. I feel more strongly now then ever of the idea that everyone has their own definition of what something and anything means. This may seem obvious to you, but if you really think about it, if we truly understood and listened to how people define things, we could possibly have less divorce, arguments, confusion, war, sadness and everything that holds us back from being genuinely good and happy people living life with what we want.

We have been taught to assume everything we see, touch, feel and love. We expect our friends, family and loved ones to "know" what we want on the basis that they have known us for "x" amount of years. Let us take marriage for example. A man and a woman fall in "love" and feel the next step is marriage. The woman may assume they will marry, honeymoon, buy a house, then have three children and live happily doing so. The husband may assume they will marry, honeymoon, buy a house, but only have one child. They never discuss the issue until the wife is ready to have her second child. The husband refuses to change his mind for many reasons that seem fully "justifiable" to him. You see both the husband and wife love each other and both wanted "marriage," however, each clearly defined marriage in a different way. This could end this marriage if the lack of communication continues.

What I am saying is each of us speak the same word but understand it differently. Whether it be two people, three people or a whole group of people, when communicating each mind has its own definition of the words that escape it and what once were thoughts, are now the reflections of who we are as individuals. I am learning what it means to communicate in a way that is getting to the core of what we really want. We all speak for different reasons and depending on how we feel, will tell us why we are speaking. Sometimes I speak to hear myself talk, to touch someones life, to hurt, to love, to get over things, and to motivate myself. Nonetheless, our words are powerful enough to make someone do great things or destroy everything they thought they knew about themselves. I want to strip every idea, tradition, stereotype and way of doing something that I see in our society and bare it down to what it really is...or is not. And this is the Mind's Blind Definition.